Now might not be the right time to have a child. Perhaps you need help managing symptoms of conditions like endometriosis. Or maybe regulating hormonal imbalances is the goal. Regardless, people choose to be on birth control for personal reasons. However, when you’re a high school student or young adult, it’s not always that black and white.
When you’re still on your parent’s healthcare plan, it may be daunting to approach the topic of starting birth control. Having a conversation about birth control and other health topics with your parents can be understandably awkward. But there are a few ways to make it more comfortable and to feel more prepared.
1. Do Your Research
With any health decision, it’s essential to know as much as possible before making a choice. Birth control is no different. There are notable upsides and potential downsides to taking birth control pills. The same goes for any other form of birth control, too.
Know what you’re potentially getting yourself into before planning to talk to your parents. Research side effects and the different forms of birth control. Evaluate which option or options you’re considering the most and be prepared to justify those decisions.
Think of things like time management and commitment. Some forms of birth control, like the pill, have to be taken at the same time every day. If that’s not something you can commit to, maybe go a different route. On the other hand, options like the implant or an IUD may be nice if you want something long-term. However, they’re a more complicated option when it comes to insertion and removal, so that’s something to keep in mind.
Being aware of your habits and preferences will help make your case stronger and feel more well-thought-out. Plus, doing the research beforehand proves you’re serious about exploring your options. That can go a long way with parents.
2. Know Your Reasoning
Your reason for wanting to take birth control is unique to you and your body. However, knowing the reason you’re making this choice is important to help others get on board, too. Be prepared to answer questions about your reasons and even some that may be unrelated.
You may want to take birth control to have less painful periods, regulate your menstrual cycle, or prevent pregnancy. All are valid reasons, but having confidence in why you want to explore birth control will make the conversation easier. Think about factors influencing your desire to get on birth control, too.
If all of your friends are on it and you don’t want to feel left out, it may be worth revisiting. You want to make this decision for yourself. If you feel like you need it for your health and well-being, that’s a powerful reason to explore it.
Going into the conversation with your research in tow and your reason solidified will give you confidence. And even if it gets uncomfortable, at least you know you prepared to the best of your ability. Most parents are understanding and receptive when their child presents a calm, well thought out argument.
3. Understand Your Parents’ Perspective
While you feel ready to make this decision, it may be difficult for your parents to accept. They could still see you as their baby and might be struggling with you growing up. Although birth control is a common choice, it may be a lot for them to process.
Of course, that’s not reason enough to not get the healthcare you need or want. Remind them that you respect their opinions and are talking to them for a reason. Also, make note that this isn’t a spur-of-the-moment thing. You’ve thought through this decision and know the possible outcomes.
Doing your best to see it from their point of view can make the conversation go easier. You’re already thinking of how they might feel, so you can avoid being frustrated by it. It may also help to start the conversation by acknowledging their feelings.
If you can keep the conversation calm, it’s easier for both parties to listen. Ultimately, the goal is to get them on board with you starting birth control. However, there’s value in making them and their emotions feel seen too.
4. Be Prepared for Any Reactions
Probably the most nerve-wracking aspect of this process is the potential reactions your parents might have. Some parents may feel blindsighted and confused. Other parents may feel uncomfortable. They could jump to conclusions about your sexual activity and be angry.
While it’s impossible to know exactly how your parents will react, try to prepare for each scenario. Remember that you’re walking into the conversation prepared having done your research. You did the homework and are talking to them for a reason.
Try to lead with that. You made the effort to learn as much as you could about birth control and the options available to you. You took the time to decide what you believe will be best for you. Now, you’re going out of your way to talk with your parents about the decision and have an adult conversation.
Although it could go many ways, having a plan in mind can only help. If you get their okay, the next step is to schedule a doctor’s appointment or have an online consultation. If they completely disagree, consider trying again once some time has passed. Showing you are still interested in birth control can communicate that it wasn’t a one-time interest.
Taking the reins on your reproductive health is a powerful thing, and birth control can help make that a reality. Even with the possible side effects and a potentially awkward conversation, advocating for what you need is worth it. Hopefully, these tips will help.
